It is the final solution to the problem when all else fails, and when reconciliation is impossible. Growing up, one of the reasons i related so much to dawn from the babysitters club was that her parents were divorced. If youve got kids, reading this book together can serve as a springboard for working through this tough time in your familys life. The bible tells christians and others to commit to their marriage and not divorce. An excellent book on marriage, divorce and remarriage, covering such topics as what the early christians said about marriage, why god is serious about marriage, compassion, church discipline, and others. Meditations of a christian hedonist and most recently why i love the apostle paul. I believe god is still in the restoration business, and he plans to restore divorced women. Find resources to help you with your divorce, remarriage, and parenting moving forward.
Live, laugh, love again and millions of other books are available for amazon kindle. Even just meeting with a newly separated woman to share your hope, will bring light and love into her world, when all seems dark. The bible makes clear the way in which god views divorce. Societys view of marriage is quite different from what god originally had in mind when he created the first couple. Some divorced women write books, some speak, some create redemptive music, and others start support groups or bible studies in their neighborhood for single mothers. What does the bible say about divorce and separation. Gola explains that god does not want people to suffer through loveless and sometimes hateful marriages. Everyday low prices and free delivery on eligible orders. Divorce, while not gods desire, is sometimes the only alternative when all else has failed. Man is a reflection of god and the structure of the human family is a reflection of the relationship between god and his son. The bible allows divorce in certain situations because of the hardness of human hearts. Mine had divorced when i was young, and i spent much of my young life shuffling between two homes.
He loves us in spite of us falling short of perfection. Here are 3 things god wants to teach you through your divorce. God never hated divorce, it was something else he hated. The best christian theological book i have come across about divorce and remarriage was written by dr. This is my final article on the study of revelations sevensealed scroll. Hard hearts cause people to persist in sin and hard hearts make it hard to forgive others but becoming a christian is about getting a new heart a soft heart filled. Partial dissolution is a divorce from bed and board, a decree of judicial separation, leaving the parties officially married while forbidding cohabitation. Divorce might seem like its fairly common culturally, but ya books about divorce are not. One woman wrote after her divorce, our divorce has been the most painful, horrid, ulcer producing, agonizing event you can imagine. Shop koorongs wide range of books and christian products now for online specials. I believe god can use your divorce just as much as he can use marriage.
Gods law on divorce and remarriage is given in deut. Testimonies on sexual behavior, adultery, and divorce. Gods divorce decree in revelation 8 postmillennial. The bible does not command divorce it permits, regulates and limits divorce. Written by stephen gola god himself is fedup with his church condemning those who have had a divorce and married again, and those who may need a divorce and will remarry. God, the creator of humanity and of marriage itself, has laid out his plan for marriage as a lifelong union.
What are the best christian books or resources on divorce. He provides fresh biblical insights into critical issues including the sacredness of sex, the struggle against temptation, the decision to remain single or to marry, child rearing, and divorce and remarriage. Let there not be marriages made between believers and unbelievers. However, jesus identified only one acceptable reason to end a marriage, stating. I read this when my marriage fell apart and i was exhausted from reading books about how to survive infidelity. To be clear, the prophet did not say that god hates people who have been divorced. This bible study discusses god and divorce and the consequences of divorce, as well as the bibles two exceptionstimes when god says divorce is permissible.
Ya books about divorce, separation, and parental splits. The controversy over whether divorce and remarriage is allowed according to the bible revolves primarily around jesus words in matthew 5. It is interesting to note the conversation between jesus and the pharisees in matthew 19. I spent hours with my face to the floor, at church and at home, begging god to save my marriage. The principle idea is that while a healthy marriage is always the best choice, if a marriage is not healthy and divorce is inevitable, there are ways to make it. Christian divorce recovery midlife divorce recovery. The phrase except for marital unfaithfulness is the only thing in scripture that possibly gives gods permission for divorce and remarriage. Carefully organized, thoroughly researched, and very well written. Free online bible study on god, marriage, and divorce. A remarriage or to remarry after divorce is the will of god. Bible verses about divorce divorce is mentioned several times in the old and new testament, as god hates divorce, and there are very few exceptions where divorce is allowed in scripture. We all can find some way to give purpose to our pain after a time of healing. God himself is fedup with his church condemning those who have had a divorce and married again, and those who may need a divorce and will remarry. What the bible teaches about divorce and remarriage.
Introducing marriage, divorce, and remarriage, a new book by dr. Great care should be taken by christian youth in the formation. Lifeway provides resources to encourage and strengthen you and your. The book, which led me to take the course based on it, changed my life.
In this one i will be focusing on revelation 5 and the divorce grounds. Changing families have been using dinosaurs divorce to learn to talk to each other about one of lifes most difficult moments for decades. There were very few books and no christian divorce bloggers or mentors until now. For when we are weak, we are made strong if we reach out to god. In sex, god, and marriage, arnold addresses the pain resulting from broken relationships and the misuse of sexual intimacy. For 33 years, he served as pastor of bethlehem baptist church, minneapolis, minnesota.
In a more personal way, novelist pat conroy said of his own marriage breakup, each divorce is the death of a small civilization. Whoever divorces his wife, except on the ground of fornication sex outside of the marriage, and marries another commits adultery. Christians who are struggling with divorce should read this book. Dinosaurs divorce, marc brown and laurie krasny brown. Divorce can be used to kill a righteous marriage, just as a surgeons knife can be used to kill a healthy person. List of books and articles about divorce online research. It is a careful analysis of what the bible says, showing.
This is quite a tricky question to answer, christians do have different views on this issue. Readers of this paper should be sure to consult the official position paper of the council of deacons of bethlehem baptist church entitled, a statement on divorce and remarriage in the life of bethlehem baptist church. Jesus teaching on marriage and divorce gives us a proper framework for lawful sexual activity. Christ reaffirms genesis teaching that the only godapproved sexual relationship is that between one man and one woman in a lawful marriage mark 10. I am not saying that we are no longer gods chosen i am saying that for us to be reconciled to god, it cannot happen under the law. How do we as jews get back to god under the law which prohibits us from coming back. It is not surprising, then, that when asked about divorce and remarriage, jesus took his listeners all the way back to the beginning, reminding them that god created humanity as male and female gen. The authors experience counseling divorcees will help christian divorces make wiser choices, find peace, and move forward. I do believe that god hates divorce, but i dont believe that it is an unforgivable sin. There are many critical keys in this book regarding divorce, remarriage, submission, interracial marriage and relationships. I wanted to overcome the statistics and prove to my critics that i. Let not unholy bonds be formed between the children of god and the friends of the world. A theology of sex, brings a broad conceptual view to biblical teachings on divorce. I want women to know that they no longer have to be afraid, that theyre not alone, and with jesus, they can survive their divorce.
Divorce is hard, horrible and heartbreaking, but we should stop saying that god hates divorce, as this is misquoting, misrepresenting, and adding to, scripture. When god said, i hate putting away, he never meant divorce, but to separate. Moreover, pronouncing that god hates divorce brings only hurt, confusion, and feelings of condemnation to christians who are divorced or contemplating divorce. This rules out all homosexual acts as well as all premarital and extramarital sexual. When we stray from his plan, as we have seen in the studies mentioned above, the results are damaging on many levels. But the fact that god divorced israel shows that lawful divorce is the result of sin, or violation of the contract. God takes the wedding covenant seriously, even when we do not. To any christian who is going through a divorce, in particularly when it is not your decision, this book is a must read. Endorsements i am aware of no resource on marriage that is as comprehensive and yet as accessible as this book. Jehovah grants the innocent mate the right to decide whether to remain with the guilty partner or to seek a divorce. Let the people of god take their stand firmly for truth and righteousness. Use our bible verses by topic page which lists popular verses from the old and new testament.
A lifelong marriage is the ideal, but when sin out of hardheartedness has made a marriage impossible to live in, god has made a way for the hurting. Covenantal marriage requires formal, legal grounds for divorce. He is author of more than 50 books, including desiring god. In 1992 the lord said to the author, son sit down, i want to teach you about divorce. Seeking god after divorce, through community, scripture, and journaling rebecca l. Whether youre married, single, separated, or divorced, pastor mikes series this week had something for all of us to consider when dealing with the difficult topic of divorce. The best book i have read on the subject is not under bondage by barbara roberts. Marriage is a covenant agreement, meant for life, therefore it must not be broken under any circumstance. At the same time, however, the christian congregation does not encourage anyone to seek a divorce. I believe that gods healing is available for all who seek it and have faith. I have on more than one occasion counseled and aided women in leaving an abusive husband.
Sex and the divorced christian divorce and remarriage help. Lets open the bible and see what we can find about divorce, adultery, remarriage and a marriage between a christian and a nonchristian. That document, dated may 2, 1989, represents the position on divorce and remarriage that will guide the church in matters of membership and. The divorced person must remain unmarried for life thereafter. Another reason god hates divorce is because it tears at the very heart of gods redemptive plan for the world. Lifeway provides resources to encourage and strengthen you and your family. This book explains gods view of divorce and remarrige so clearly from the scriptures. The phrase except for marital unfaithfulness is the only thing in scripture that possibly gives god s permission for divorce and remarriage. As a pastor, i regularly search for those texts that might be used in marriage counseling with couples, in premartial counseling, and with teens and preteens in the church. What does the bible say about divorce and remarriage. How do you explain that the jewish people are divorced from god by his own word. Looking for the truth concerning a christian marriage, divorce and being married again as taught in the bible. As he did with adam in the garden, god took the cinders of my shattered heart and created a new purpose.